Is It Just A Phase?

My mom was so upset when she picked me up to go shopping.She said she found out that my 16 year old brother "J" has still been putting that his orientation is "Bisexual" on his myspace profile page...and that hes also having conversations with gay and bisexual boys and grown men.


In one conversation he told a boy that he has kissed lots of other boys but has never actually "Stuck It"? ...and One boy asked him if his girlfriend knew about his sexuality, and he said "Yeah shes okay with it"


...My mom was almost in tears when she said she was going to get rid of her internet connection, because shes tired of "J" having such explicit conversations online. At first she was even talking of smashing the computer with a brick or hammer. She said shes going to make "J" get a summer job, paint the basement and put him back in tae-kwondo again.I asked her if she really thinks this is going to work? She said she thinks it might, and for me to pray for my little brother's sexuality.





Then she had the NERVE to blame most of this on "C" -(a guy I was dating quite some time ago)

"I think he was undercover gay and HE influenced your brother! HE DID THIS! Your little brother looked up to him!" she yelled at me.



Okay, maybe "C" was a little bit soft and he did dress sorta "Emo". But "C" was in an "Emo" band and played the drums. Now that my brother is becoming borderline "Emo" with the shiny girly rocker belts that holds up his jeans etc...and his bright green and orange mowhawks he was wearing for a while...I thought my brother was maybe going through some sort of phase like all kids do with fashion.




When I was his age, I was wearing the lacey 'Madonna gloves' and I had the 80s wild crazy bed hair and 'Bananarama' clothes...jelly bracelets, big earrings etc....I loved all of that stuff! It was a phase I grew out of.I'm not really sure about my brother though.



Is it really possible to grow out of a "Bi" stage? Is he really even "Bi" or just "Bi-curious"???

I asked myself...if my brother is "bi-curious" and it turns into something more later...like if he discovers that he definitely likes the male persuasion...How would I feel about him?

I'll still love him no matter what.

I could never turn my back on him....hes my baby brother!




I asked mom how she would deal with it...





"NO COMMENT!!!" she yelled...